sorry that you are so upset with your dad. he sounds like a hard-headed, arrogant, and controlling man. he will likely never make admission to you that he did you wrong. can't blame you for bolting, but remember this; your anger at him is only hurting you. his
ego is too large for him to consciously see his mistakes, so don't expect any miracles there.

are you going to be just as obstinate as he is, at the cost of your mother's relationship? forgetting is one thing, forgiving another. maybe you can show
your father that you are a bigger person than he is. he is what he is...and your
thinking he might come around on your terms is unlikely. he probably knew he could find about about your well being from your mom; i doubt it is because he is
completely cut off for his affection to you because he didn't ask...it was probably because he knows you are mad at him.

your mom is living with this hard-head, and he obviously controls her to some extent...but then loyality between a husband and wife is very pervasive. you are wanting her to choose over him....she is square dab in the middle of two people who should accept each other as they are instead of being pulled left and right.