(((((((((((((((((ErinBear))))))))))))))))))

I so feel for you at this moment. My t is leaving the first week of July. Because of my long history with him, most things being gone through, etc., we decided that I would end therapy altogether. It still seems appropriate to me.

T said if I did continue therapy that I should wait about six months as usually the second one doesn't work out because the client is comparing, missing t, etc...kinda like a rebound relationship. He said it's usually the third that will work out...rarely the second when a client has been with a t for a long time.

Having said that, do you think you could interview t's on your own or take a short break to grieve and then find the t you want and need?

If you feel you need the support, I would start looking straight away. I know, at one point I panicked, and called several t's. Many of them called me back and talked with me a long time on the phone! I could tell from there which ones I would even consider seeing for the first visit. I particularly liked one...a male.

I'm like you as well. I told my t, "Could you imagine me having a female t and what might happen there?" It's not possible. I would not have trusted a female t and may very well have torn her down pretty quickly.

I wish you so well. PM if you want or need to. I'll listen.

kd