My T waits until i seem sort of with it then gets me just jump around, shake my hands and stamp my feet (god knows what the office below must think) but it works for me, the only way i've found that helps so far. I get that whole feeling of not being real, it makes everything complicated. He has also had me focus on the chair and the ground but that didn't seem to help much. Your T should really be helping you with this or it may be the case she doesn't have the training/knowledge to help you but she should be doing something.
Good luck, hope you find a way.