My post is to say goodbye. I haven't been here for awhile but I have read posts now and then, tryin to keep up on what's going on. Really decide if this was a place I wanted to come back and join into. There are some really good people here.

I posted a few in the questions section because I found it interesting and thought maybe it would be a good way to start getting back in the swing of things. After reading some of the posts I have decided that this is not the place I want to be.

The nitpicking and name calling really irritates me. It's so thoughtless, unkind and unneccesary. Grown adults who should have an understanding of what it's like to go through tough times mentally and physically telling others to get over it, move on, grow up. If I had posted my feelings of hurt, anger, betrayal, dissapointment or struggles I would be very upset if someone callously told me to get over it and stop complaining.

We all are in different stages of grief, pain, confusion, bitterness and anger etc. We can't all grow up or get over things at the same time. Some never will. Who is to judge when we should or what we should do? Only we can really help ourselves and only we can decide when and what is best for us.

In the meantime we have a wonderful forum that Doc John has created for us to come and vent, whine, complain, joke, have some fun, Console, understand and offer help or advice. Most of us have used it for that purpose.

I apologize if this post is lengthy but I want to express myself before I go.

I agree that in the end we can only help ourselves and that sometimes means finding the right people to help us. Some of us have problems we cannot deal with on our own and use many aids to get through. Some things won't work for others and some don't have the access or support to deal with the tough times we are struggling with. Who gets to judge? Certainly not I.

We are dealing with people here that we really don't "know". We don't have to deal with thier personal pain and struggles only ours. We don't see them suffering through thier day. We can be here as a helping hand, a friend, a place to reach out to.

Name calling, taunting and judging have no place in my world and I have grown so weary of people hurting others especially when people here should know how it feels to be lonely, sad, afraid, confused, rejected or hurt.

Thank you to the people here who have been my friend and have helped me thru a tough time. You know who you are. Hugs to all the people who are hurting. I wish I could stay and give you encouragement and friendship.

I regret that I have to leave feeling the way I do.

Hugs,
Joan

There is a time in life when you stop existing and start living.
There is a time in life when you are given a new chance and new dreams.
There is a time in life when the old is to be forgotten and the new embraced.

There is a time in life......And that time is now.
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