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I think it is ridiculous that she is dating at 15

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That statement, if said to her, is the fastest way to assure that she WILL continue dating her boyfriend.

She doesn't think she's "only" 15. She thinks she's an adult. Reminding her that she's not will almost certainly spark a rebellion.

I believe that when kids are ready, we need to pay attention to that and work WITH them so that they go about doing the things that they are ready for responsibly. That doesn't mean advocating sex or anything like that, but my advice (as a former stepmom of a teenager, and being a former teenage rebel myself) is to admit, to the teenager, that you're going to need some time to adjust to their new sense of maturity and that you want to work together to make sure she stays safe. If you push her away with too many restrictions, then she's not going to feel that she can trust and confide in you, and THAT is when she'll get herself into trouble.

I wish you the best of luck. You sound like a really caring mom-figure in her life. She's lucky to have you