I'm glad to read these posts. I use this with men/romantic interests. I think no man will ever like/desire me (thank you Daddy complex) though I am attractive, smart and funny. So I just assume I can only "pick" from the ones who appear to like me. Those type of guys are usually sex addicts and narcissists. I do see the dangers, so I don't get involved in relationships or date much. My affirmation for 2012 is "You are worthy of love and belonging." I keep telling myself this, trying to change my brain to believe that a man would find me interesting and desirable, so I don't have to just settle for being alone. Maybe due to my own narcisissm, I simply cannot tolerate loser or abusive guys. I guess that's my fighter/scapegoat role from my childhood though. So generally believe I'm destined to a lonely life because no man would want to put up with my BPD behavior (even though I'm not even meeting the criteria after 5 years of therapy).

Glad I could get that out. I'm trying to believe there are good guys out there.