mcl is so right. T is not meeting her where she is, and neither was I. that is not being supportive. i'm 60 years old and we play with therapy dolls, for pete's sake, and i'm telling mcl to be more mature??? major fail! I think I get what you're saying now. in my case, I was always pushed to grow up, grow up, grow up - partly because I was larger physically, but also because my mother just did not have the patience for children. So now, part of what I "do" in therapy is try to fill those blanks - I know we can't go back, but we can bump out the dents and Bondo and paint over them. My T is taking the time to do this - sounds like mcl's T just kicked the tires? And then I came along with a tire gauge, which I am notoriously bad with IRL, and in measuring the pressure, further deflated the subject. I am truly sorry for being so not understanding and unsupportive, esp when I have been (and still am) there and should know better.