Hello Halcali, wow, I am going to come across as a real sleeze jerk. but hey.
I have always been so terribly afraid of judgment of people. now , right now.
I couldn't care.
> I had this girl. in Dec we dated, by February after valentines I asked if
we could 'take a break''.. because i was getting too entangled with her. I
needed to find out how I really felt.
Two days later I came back on both knees beggin her to take me back. I
knew then I explained, that I could not stop loving her.
Having had a very bad history with jealous woman long before, I did
put this girlfriend to some tests.
here is where our readers are going to feel I am a scumbag.
I found the ear ring of a former friend (very casual) and left it on
my car seat. my girlfriend on getting in saw this, and I explained it away
as I had been cleaning out some old boxes and it had fallen out, and
explained who it had belonged to.
I months after this went on a double date with girlfriend (M.S.)
and my friend's date C.J. was sitting on the floor talking her short shorts
revealing her legs, which I was glancing at often, more than appropriate but
not so much that C.J. noticed.).
When we got home to my girlfriend's house (M.S.) I explained that
she being 30 and C.J. being younger, I was so amazed and pleased
that M.S . had such varicose vein free legs and in general great legs
compared to C.J. whom some girlfriends might feel jealous of.
She, M.S. was accepting, she fought with me once, over my buying a
large drink and splitting it,at the cinema. but in all other factors she
showed control of her jealousy, or any jealousy.
She showed perfectly that she loved me, and I was even called
arrogant by friends for my confidence that M.S. loved me.
She showed no jealousy in all our years together. but is it right for a woman
to never show discomfort or jealousy in a relationship>???<
If a woman does not, then she has something wrong with her. some
actions by a mate/spouse are too suspicious, too much begging the
question, or too offensive not to get him thoroughly kicked to the
curb regardless of how well all other parts of the relationship/or marriage is
on the JAKE.

My actions, were a bit off 'grid' but really most women I have dated
get bent if I am friendly with a waitress, actress (happens often), or
chat up a new social-network contact.
There is a fine, <very fine line> between being social vs and being flirty and
hitting on a person.
Where this line is, perhaps is something I draw in very flirty zone, but
I know there are some 'places' a conversation should not go,
like affirming that I did cheat "when I didn't" or that I would absolutely" when
I on the other hand claim to be totally devoted to my partner.
The boyfriend I think either never passed the border in his going through
puberty, from the mindset of 'love feels good to have for women and I could
love them all" over to a non-polygamous land of ' if you really love someone,
you should be willing to make that >Seventh Commandment: Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery... commitment".

I have and will continue to struggle with 'MY" women being too jealous
over my extreme shyness taking its occasional vacation and the real
strong social me coming out for a perhaps slightly flirty 'SEEMING" discussion
with men and women.
I will always be that way, I like art, music, and theater. and these people
are MY people.
But i will not tell my mate, if I meet Carmen Electra, I get a hall pass..
pass, okay!.
That, even by my flirty standards is ... er creepy.


OH, no, you should not be mad...
you should be making plans to change the relationship.
(If something makes you upset and miserable, it isn't worth it;
be happy.)

Thanks for your patience.

Sandee.