yabbut when the GOOD 1/3 was missing, and you got 1/3 benign and 2/3rd carp growing up, you don't have much tolerance for carp as an adult. That's why T had to be supersweet with me for a long long time before I could even begin to give it back. Not to "make up" for my past, but to begin to fill the very empty bucket where reciprocation comes from.