SD... I have issues with touch to and my T. sometimes makes jokes about it... I was explaining how I was getting upset while at a friends apartment and I just had to get up and leave quickly cause I didn't want her to see me get upset... and he said "what would she do that could be so horrible. .. oh I know she would hug you".. Weeks later I was still upset thinking he thinks I can't have anyone touch me...

So we actually spent a whole session talking about what "touch" is okay with me and what isn't... It was really helpful to me and it made me think he understands me and helped me work through what some "triggers" are... Like ... a hug is okay with some one I know cause usually a person hugs you from in front of you and you see them coming and the start of a hug is kind of an invitation... but someone coming up from side and giving me a side squeeze hug when I didn't see them coming could earn them a serious jab in ribs and a panic attack for me......my point is that maybe "touch" would be a topic for you to discuss with T.

My T. once told me he thinks I'm a good mom... I said how can you say that you haven't seen me with my kids...and he said he knew it cause I cared enough about myself and them to come to therapy... I'm sure your T. thinks you are a good mom too whether you were holding hands with your children or not..