I understand what you are saying wisewoman. I think it's important to participate in the events at school, too. I've been with him on 3 other field trips this year. We both enjoyed ourselves and had a good time. But today I have an appointment with my daughter's neurologist to see when her surgery is coming up. MIL knew today was just not a good day for me to be going on a field trip. She says, "Oh, but what if something terrible happens?!?!". Yeah, that makes me feel REALLY good.. sheesh. Yes, she DOES need boundaries... she's getting really out of line about some things... and that's putting it nicely. Thanks, ((( WW )))