Hey jmo, so sorry you are in the whirl. Changes within one effect changes within the other. I'm glad yer h is supportive of you taking some alone time to settle things down. Just remember, it doesn't have to be all or nothing..... maybe just knowing you have choices will relieve some of the pressure you feel. If you live near water: big water, that is moving, the energy near it will be fluid and healing and helpful for clearing thoughts. If you could even take yerself on a little picnic in a quiet spot, your place to get away, regularly and breath your own air.......