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You're right MissBelle. I realized earlier that the more I bring it up with her, the more she will think about it and the more she will remember it. I'm a part of this too. I just don't know what else to do. I don't want to keep her from her family but I don't want this happening to her.
My brother was worried last night after the kids went to bed. Was wondering where this originated from. He knew they learned it somewhere but you could tell he was worried. He got up first thing this morning and went home. Was gone by 8am. I feel so bad now. I feel like I made things so much worse for my neice. She is only 6 (forgot she just had a birthday) and my brother probably felt horrible about it as he didn't say much afterward. I feel like I screwed everyone up last night in my reaction. I really kept it rather calm considering my internal reaction. My instincts kicked in and first thing I freaked out. Once I could calm it I was able to talk more to them but gosh... I really screwed up. Should I have another talk with the 6 year old and tell her I'm sorry and such?
Things were handled terribly when I was a child and that's a large part of why I'm still so screwed up, I can't do that to these kids... I don't know how to fix this. With my daughter I can just drop it never talk about it again, I wasn't yelling at her, my instincts were to grab her and protect her from whatever was causing this. I didn't treat my neice like she was an abuser but I didn't treat her like she was a 6 year old, more like she was a teenager. I can't ruin her life either. I love my neice and nephew and my daughter. It's my daughter first of course but I can't stand the idea that I scarred my neice... I just don't know, this should not have happened...
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I'd lock my hands behind my head, I'd cover my heart and hit the deck, I'd brace myself for the impact if I were you.
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