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I've kind of known about the stereotyping for children in foster care, I just guess I didn't consider it effecting my child since there were 3 adults in the house. We figured 3 kids with 3 adults they wouldn't do much. But the second they got alone in the bedroom it started. Not to mention now I'm a little concerned. They also stayed last weekend and my boyfriend said when I was at work that my daughter and my brothers daughter locked themselves in the bathroom for like 15 minutes. My daughter in the last week has been also saying she wants to pee upward and keeps trying to pull her pants down in public. That's been hard enough without all of this.
I told my brother last night they couldn't be trusted alone any more. We know that much. But I really think perhaps these kids need to have a nice kind conversation about this by me or him.
Theyw ere in foster care because of the mom. My brother was deployed to Iraq the first time they got taken away. They got the kids back and when he came back from Iraq he ended up going to jail. He took the fall for her but don't get me wrong he wasn't 100% innocent. When he went to jail she abandoned the kids. left them home and left state without telling anyone. They got taken away. She got them back AGAIN. A couple months after she got them back and my brother was out of jail. She begged us to take the girl so we did in a heart beat, had been trying to get them from her this whole time. About 2 months after that she went to jail and we got the boy too. Now my brother has his own place with them.
There is no telling what they have been through but I know it's a lot which makes me feel that much worse for getting upset yesterday but just because it's no ones fault doesn't mean it wasn't wrong. I think I'm going to talk to my brother about getting the kids physically evaluated to see... I however have heard the evaluations could be just as traumatic for a child so maybe just psychologically evaluated? I want all of these kids to have the best chance but I already know his kids.. Have been through too much. I don't want to cut my daughter from them but I don't see them getting stable any time soon...
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