I am seeing a T twice a week and am working on this issue. There was a lot of neglect, emotional abuse and deprivation in my childhood. Basically, my mother raised me to be her caretaker. Most of my prior T's used CBT but that has been ineffective in treating my issues. Recently, my past employer switched HMO plans and now I have to find a new T as my current one does not meet their educational requirements. So, I continue to have major issues. My current T is a psychoanalyst and that approach, while painfully slow, is helping. But HMOs don't want to pay for it. Ultimately, I've been the one who has been paying over the years by receiving psychological care that was not helpful in curing my deep seated emotional issues.