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Today I was able to let my gaurd down and I was talking to my therapist about my general sexual fealings and fantasies and fetishes in a level of detail I've never aproched with anyway. I felt this was a big deal, but she said they were normal and nothing to feal ashamed of. I also have this thing about seeking aproval from women. And this is the first time a woman has ever told me my sexual fealings are normal and a-okay. Then I went quiet for a bit not knowing what to say because I was expecting judgement but got aproval, and from there these thoughts wandered in. It must be caused by the fact she gave me the approval I was looking for. Do I tell her?
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Yes! Tell her! Look at how much it's obviously affected you to be telling her about sexual feelings, and feeling normal. This is the perfect opportunity for you to then talk about sexual feelings in the here-and-now.
And, as you probably know, this is a totally normal occurrence. If she's a good T, she's trained to deal with it. What you said is very insightful -- you know this isn't about sex per se, but about intimacy (I just made several people shudder) and attachment. This is really rich material for therapy. Go for it! And good luck. I know it's scary... been there and done that.