Everytime T asked me that in the past, I would just shrug my shoulders and say "IDK." It got nowhere. So she hasn't asked me that question in awhile. Now I feel like T is taking charge by asking a ton of specific questions. It's SO tough when she does that. It makes me feel like "crap, do we have to talk about that?" I guess it's good that she does that because I don't tell her anything concrete unless she asks.