It is our job as parents to instill good ethic... but not every child is alike. I have five all grown, ages 43-23, yes they have made choices that I wish that had never made. But I have taught them to look at the bigger picture, live by your choices, what ever bed you make for yourself accept the consequences because there could be many. My oldest is raising 2 girls, one his bio and the other is her sister. My son went to court to petition for sole custody of his daughter and then ask the judge for the sole custody and adoption of his daughter sister. Big bed to make, he has had the girls for 14 years they are 15 and 17, he has done well. He has had to figure out a lot. But with my love and support he has gotten through it. we live in different states so I am not right there, but a phone call away. Our children need us at any and every age. Don't be ready to through them under the bus so easily. Family values have to come back, where we stand behind our children, our future.