@aaaa~no i am not a jealous person, i don't like how he acts towards me and our children after he gets off the phone with his mother. "emotionally black mailing my husband" can you explain yourself on that one?

his mother calls my hubby and her other children horrible names, isn't satisfied with anything they do for her, and complains all the time. he gets off the phone he won't talk to me or our children.

this is how it's been for over 25 years! i thought i would never say this but my father in law was a saint to put up with her.

you also mentioned about spouses come and go, my hubby and i don't believe in divorce so we are not going anywhere. i too been married now for over 25 years, and have beautiful children.

my father in law on his death bed tells me, "i am sorry it was my fault that you wouldn't come over, your a good person, i don't have to worry about my son because i see how good you treat him, your good with money, and i love you." how sad.

sorry for your loss. your right we are only here for a short period of time, i just don't like how my mil thinks she can say and do such hurtful things and think thats ok. it's not!

my brother in law he actually has anxiety attacks because of the stress his own mother is giving him, so he has to take anxiety meds.

my sister in law refuses to talk to her, she can't take it anymore and i don't want my hubby getting stressed out because of his mother.