I am driven into anger by losing control. Especially if I have lost control somehow of my husband. It sounds horrible, I know. I hate that I have to admit that. I feel like the only time that my anger is quenched is when I can somehow become secure again, usually by locking myself away in another room, sometimes by driving away in my car, but more often, saying the meanest things I can think of until my husband cries. Then I'll feel pity and calm down, and later deal with guilt and the damage I did to him and our relationship. I'm ready to get out of that cycle, and I'm trying lots of different things, but I want more opinions and perspectives! It's hard to know what to do when you're so overwhelmed with emotion.