Something I said to a friend earlier today comes to mind. We were talking about what I would say to a camper who was queer if I ever went back to being a councilor at a Christian camp. I told her "I would pull them aside at some point, very discretely so no one else knew, and tell them 'God loves you. I don't think you chose to be queer, you just are. And since you just are, you were made this way, and God made you, so I don't see any reason that you should try and change what God made you. But if you still want to follow God through the church community (and I'd be supportive of that), you have to keep in mind that most people don't agree with that. If you want to be queer and part of church, you will have to keep quiet about it. Don't let that hinder you from your walk with God. If you find a partner, make sure they understand that your God comes first, and that they are supportive of that.'"

There was a bit more too it, but I would offer you similar advice. I can't give you a pre-scripted solution of things to say and people to talk to, but I can say that your sexuality should not make you doubt your faith, that your faith is a good place to turn to at times like these, and that it's not bad to keep quiet if thats what you want. So I would say no, don't tell your family. Personally; no, don't suppress this and seclude yourself. Don't be afraid to be with someone, as long as he knows that your love for Allah and your duty to your family are more important to you than being gay and he not only has no right to ask or make you come out to them, but that this should not have to be a topic of discussion further down the road.

From my own parents (who technically accept me but it's really awkward) "We're open and accepting of you, but there are things that parents and children just shouldn't discuss. Your sex life (strong subtest: and sexuality) are one of them. We love you, but we just don't want to know."

Sorry if my comments seem disjointed from the current flow of conversation. I read through this, though I admit I only skimmed the last few posts.

Cheers,
KLove