hi, justdontask - from your last post, it sounds like you are taking most of the responsibility for the relationship with your father. he's the parent - he's the one who is supposed to be there for YOU. by approaching him with your problems, you are not threatening the relationship with him. in fact, you might be building / strengthening it. please consider discussing your feelings with your father. i think the problems you are having are serious. it's very important to get help early before the problem feelings grow stronger. please let go of your need to be perfect a little. no one is perfect and you should not feel that your humanness is a problem.

it sounds like you are depressed. i am not sure that talking to a coach is sufficient. a trained professional like a school counselor is a much sounder choice. please keep us informed. all the best to you.