I see this very much the way you do, and add everyone is an individual, having different needs, poetry is interpreted as anyone wants to, like a painting, people can view one same picture in different ways, and they are free to do so.
What we get from music, poetry, paintings and other works of art, including nature's art is individual, personal, we can store all of this in our mind's eye.
Healing, processing, grieving, etc. need no certain schedule, it is the final outcome that matters most

DE

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SOLON