3 months post break up. Brief synopsis, grew distant with GF of 8 1/2 years due to her keeping me at arms length because of her troublsome son. 1 day we stop texting each other, due to strains in the rel. 2 weeks later I get a call saying she has put on FB that she's in a rel...with my friend!!!! Utter shock and devastation have ruled my life since then, the anger, sense of betrayal and the silence from her was deafening.

I kept my pride and dignity, did not go after them demanding answers, she may have been cheating, she may not...I will never know and after 3 months of being swept aside, does it even matter?

To all of you who have been discarded and dismissed and it's still raw, hang in there. It gets a little easier in that she doesn't frequent my thoughts 85% of the time anymore, it's nearer to about 65, 70% now, which is progress to me.

To try to help myself, I ate, rested/slept as much as I could, exercised and got out with friends. Inertia breeds contempt. You have to put yourself in the drivers seat and look ahead, as only you can change what is.

Yes, tend your open wounds, cry, get angry. Do not supress any feelings you have, you have to get them out to start moving forward

So just a message of hope really, time is your best friend, that and nurturing yourself and accepting your feelings, good or bad.