For me, just personally, if it was a post, I would rather have someone be honest but only in a PM. If someone is honest to me in a public post I would feel like I was being punished. And if I feel as thou I'm being punished I get defensive. Just goes back to my past abuse issues.

But I also think it has to be supportive honestly. I question ppls motives a lot if they are being nice. Trust issue thing. Hard but good question.

Monty