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Originally Posted by hankster
really? warm fuzzy lovefest fine? all is forgiven about the rough teasing and csa fine? we all celebrate each other's successes fine? we're so happy you found a life partner fine? gee bro and sis I think you're doing a great job raising your kids, no weirdness there fine? Or just, we all keep our mouths shut so there is no drama "fine".
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Well a warm fuzzy lovefest would freak me out from any source including the family. I would probably think someone was dying if anyone got all fuzzy. There was nothing to forgive, it is just how it worked. I am fairly low drama all the time, and if there is drama going on with siblings,I might not know it. The remaining parent does not believe in drama. They live several states away from me. We are not best friends, but we are generally civil and supportive of each other. The csa was with a more distant relative.
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Originally Posted by velcro003
Stopdog, there is NO SUCH THING as "not really bad" CSA/beatings. It IS abuse and it is clear that is why you have such an extreme reaction to humiliation now-it (unconsciously) reminds you of your
childhood. Your T is right, but you have to see this for yourself and i truly hope that you can see with new eyes that you never deserved to be treated that way and you deserve now to be happy. We are here for you!
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Thanks. I don't really think of my past as deserved or not. It just was how children were treated. I don't think I am unhappy. Perhaps not deliriously joyful, but not actively unhappy. I will ponder on it.