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Old Jan 26, 2012, 05:47 PM
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Originally Posted by CantExplain View Post
I'm afraid I'm not convinced by this argument.

If it was a boundary thing, T would never disclose. My T did disclose over time, but she started by refusing to answer any of my questions.

So she withheld when I was most vulnerable and disclosed when I didn't need it any more.

Where's the sense in that?
Boy I think this is BRILLIANT. I asked my cold, distant T a few very bland questions about himself. He would not answer. For example, he had been out of town for a few weeks and said he was taking a vacation. So...after the vacation, I asked...How was your vacation.

"Too much driving."

I asked, at the beginning of appointments, how are you.

OK

I asked, what do you think of all this snow...wow!

Winter.

Have you ever done anything artistic?

My disssertation.

It was really ...in retrospect....ridiculous...

And, then, he told me he wondered if I was the kind of person who "was hard to get close to."

Ha!
Thanks for this!
CantExplain, vanessaG