One thing that my therapist has had me do was write a letter that you don't intend to send (or can't send, depending on what/who you are grieving). Let me tell you that (for me) a LOT of emotions came out just from the letters I've written. One letter I wrote helped me move very quickly toward acceptance.

Another I am still working on, I have an 'on-going' letter in the works 'cause the grief is really deep and a lot to work through.

And the homework she just gave me was to 1) write a list of things I know to be true about someone (or a relationship) and 2) write a list of things that i made up about a person (or relationship) that may or may not be true.

As I work on this one, I am discovering how much in my head is made up and may not be true. and if it's not the truth, why am i holding on to it, grieving about it ... realizing this, i feel, might make reaching acceptance much easier.

It's very hard work and Very VERY emotional but can be very freeing. What hardest for me is when recent losses (or potential losses) trigger old pain. Hopefully as I work through this, that will happen less.

Hope that helps!