Hi guys!

I've often seen people post that validation, worth, confidence, happiness etc come (or should come) from inside.

For instance, I have seen people write things like, "Stop seeking validation from other people and learn to validate yourself."

I'm sure that's a worthy long term goal, but it's not a single step!

Remember actor Troy McClure's self help video, "Get Confident, Stupid!" We laugh at that because of the contradiction between encouraging someone and calling them stupid. That couldn't happen here, right?

Confidence takes years to build in childhood, and if we didn't learn it then (or perhaps more accurately, if we had it beaten out of us), we're not going to learn it overnight as adults.

If someone doesn't love themselves, is it really that helpful to tell them that they should? Wouldn't it be better to love them and thus show them that they are lovable?

We don't teach children self-worth with chalk and blackboard. It's something they pick up when we treat them as worthy.

I'm not criticising anyone or condemning anyone's opinions. I just wonder...