I also found that writing a letter to the person I'm grieving was helpful. I did that with 2 different Ts. It was a letter to my mother. Reading it to my T was the closest I came to crying in therapy. My former T added another step: a letter written back to ME as I think my Mom would have written it. Or, maybe as I wished she had written it. I think mine was a combination. I planned to write more letters to my Mom but haven't done it. I probably need to write one to my father as I haven't grieved his death at all.