That statement has two parts:

(1) learn to
(2) validate yourself

Yourself is already there and wonderful! It's like saying, "God is omnipotent"; well, duh? We just don't see ourselves as we are, the wonderful stuff inside ourselves. All that has been buried over with the hurts and pains and struggles of childhood that got us to therapy in the first place. But the good stuff is all already there, inside us, i.e., there must be a pony in there somewhere!

http://mattmclean.blogspot.com/2008/...somewhere.html