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Old Jan 27, 2012, 08:44 AM
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Originally Posted by CantExplain View Post
If it was a boundary thing, T would never disclose. My T did disclose over time, but she started by refusing to answer any of my questions.

So she withheld when I was most vulnerable and disclosed when I didn't need it any more.

Where's the sense in that?
There is just something about disclosing for the client that is different from disclosing for no reason. Disclosing for the client is professional. Disclosing for no reason is anything but professional. That professional boundary is needed. Doing therapy is hard work. You know how you can get vulnerable feeling and you don't like it sometimes? Well, the therapist is human too. The best work is done when the therapist can be emotionally available to the client. This requires stripping away some boundaries. Other boundaries are a must in order to do this. It is a tight rope to walk across.

Now for what happened between you and your T, it would be hard to speculate since we need more info, a lot more info.
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