If my t were to look at me and say, "Maybe you're concerned alot for your health because you haven't lived your life to the fullest?"

I would interpret is as my t knowing I have alot of life left to live and that it's totally appropriate to be concerned for health and being as healthy as I can. It would seem to me that t was justifying my right to appropriate concern.

Just another viewpoint...

Ogie, I wish you well. I hope you talk this over with t. There have been several things that t has said where I didn't understand the full meaning because something he said jumped out at me and I tended to focus on that and not the context in which it was given. I've always been glad to discuss it afterward.

I hope things work out.

KD