"I think he's cutting me off. You don't do that to people!"

Yes, you do. Especially when you have other people to think about (i.e. a spouse, and kids) and a further relationship with the other party could harm your relationships and yourself. I know you're hurting- no one wants to feel "thrown out," or unimportant, especially by people we have intense feelings for. While I've never been in a situation exactly as yours, my experiences with the intense feelings that develop quickly over time (and obsession) with men who are either emotionally or literally unavailable is that they are dangerous and have lead me nowhere but down. I'm not saying you aren't valid in feeling upset-- it sounds like you're having a really tough time, and reaching out for support is the best thing you can do. I'm glad to hear you found time for a therapist- but sorry to hear he is weird. Could you try seeing a female therapist? No offense to dudes, but I have always felt more comfortable opening up to/being vulnerable with another woman when it comes to that professional relationship. I hope you find a better fit, in any case!!

Has your husband noticed the recent emotional turmoil you've been going through? What does he think about it? Also, do you have any close friends "in real life" who you trust enough to go to about this? I know message boards can help, but sometimes talking about things with someone you love and trust is a lot more beneficial, especially because a friend knows you better than we do!

I'm not saying your marriage is or isn't right, or that you need to put it first. Maybe deep down, you aren't happy with it. Or maybe there is something else missing in your life that left a space open for this emotional situation to fall into. In any case, regardless of his reason or choice to stop contacting you, it may be because he realizes the danger of continuing (especially knowing he's coming to town soon) and does not want to risk anything more happening. He probably doesn't want to hurt any parties involved, including you. It feels like rejection, but in a way, he's doing everyone a favor, because it could get much worse and much more messy down the road, right?

I know this sucks. Just remind yourself, it WILL get better. Even if you do nothing (i.e. therapy, or nothing changes) pain in life is like a wave. It comes and goes. Things can feel terrible one minute, but time really does make a difference. Hang in there.