I am such a hypocrit to say this as I find it really hard to open up to my T - but I wonder whether you can share exactly what you have shared on here - how hurt you were by what she said and the tone of her voice.

I think T is partly about learning to be able to express ourselves and our needs and maybe being able to try to resolve things with people in our lives.

However I have been very passive in relationships in the past and am not good at judging those that I should walk away from and I can feel the confusion that I would have in the situation you have described.

When does an outward display of extreme emotion become abusive?