Perna ... Good points , it is about me. Soup, I hear you ... Passive at home not at work for me. Maybe I will talk with her about this and if it doesn't go well maybe I should switch. Maybe we aren't compatible and I'm putting a square peg in a round hole? Of course in afraid to say anything now... For fear but in the end what am I afraid of? T dumpin me ... Maybe I should dump her?