Mindinpieces

You are an unusual and special person. You are so kind to the person that hit you and their feelings; but you know you are not being good to yourself Mindinpieces. Accidents do happen, you were very much wounded by the accident, but you are bleeding about other people's shame instead of your own hurt.

You were a very young adolescent and yeah, guess what, not only adolescents make errors, not pay attention and so do grown-ups. Perhaps the driver should have taken some defensive driving tactics to avoid hitting you. You were the victim here, not the driver. You had broken bones and likely a lot of pain and abrasions...did the driver have that...I sure the answer is "no". I noticed in one of your posts you empathize strongly with the driver. There appears to be no way for you to know how the driver feels, may feel lucky they got out of that without harsher fines and punishments.
You cannot assume their mental application to what they did to you.
Have you read about the Stockholm Syndrome? It might be of some help to you.

I think you are blaming a 13 year old for not being completely and absolutely responsible. Really??? Is that a just statement?
It would take a rarity for a young teen who is feeling their way through life with a clear understanding of an adult. Does not happen...teens are known for having misconceptions and traveling through layers of feelings, hormonal changes, life challenges, learning concepts, and it takes years of living to become qued to the development of the person. You certainly would not be there at age 13, just beginning.

I probably sound harsh, but want to make a clear message to you concerning this.
You are not to blame yourself!!! Being a victim is hard enough, but you are trying to be the victimizer....no, no, no!! Hugs to you young lady, bj