So which scenario is better?:

1. Keep seeing your therapist (whom you've grown painfully, lovingly attached to - for real AND idealized reasons) and have him fill a need that is missing in your relationship with your spouse (you have asked your spouse to fill this need and he's responded in a few small ways, but is unwilling to compromise on some big issues).

OR

2. Stop seeing your T, because your attachment to him MIGHT be impairing your ability to repair your marriage. But really, you fear that you might completely fall apart by not having a positive, supportive presence (in the form of T) in your life. You don't have other family for support, yet you have small children relying on you.

I wish I didn't have the feelings for T that I do! I don't want to want him, but I DO. Stupid side effects of therapy. He's been a really great T so far, and I'm still improving in many ways. He has never crossed any boundaries.