My T has done some EMDR with me, still in beginning stages... but we came up with one of the most troubling beliefs about myself, which is that I feel like I am never good enough. My T wants me to recall memories of my past, like the abuse and trauma, that is making me believe i am not good enough. Well, I have tons of memories of abuse but I am not sure which ones have left me feeling not good enough. I mean all of them do, but its more like, the trauma gives me more fear or anger than the feeling of not good enough. Like I know that the abuse was my parents fault not mine so I am more angry at them, and when I have the memories I can get very angry. But I just do not know which memories to bring up that are causing me to not feel good enough. I am having so much confusion. I don't know what specifically causes me to believe I'm not good enough, except for in general when my parents hurt me. Maybe that led me to feel like I don't deserve better? So that it makes me feel like I'm not a good enough person to deserve better? I don't know, I just am having trouble connecting the dots...