Obviously, if you were told NOT to talk as a child, this is still affecting you....old tapes.[/quote]

This is a very common childhood experience is it not?
You always hear adults say ....
Shhhh
Speak when spoken to
Children should be seen not heard
I'm the adult, i speak, you listen etc.

I find it an interesting theory as to why people can't speak freely as adults. Worth thinking about even if only to be sure not to treat the children i interact with this way.