Sabrina - I'm coming into this late, so Happy Anniversary if I missed it.

I can relate to how you feel. I have gained probably 20 pounds since I met my husband. My ex-husband would have divorced me even sooner if I had put on this much weight while we were together - he was a jerk about stuff like that.

However, this is strange but I feel much closer to my husband because even despite my extra weight, he still looks at me with love in his eyes, even when I am bending over to put on my socks while wearing my ugliest granny panties and haven't been to the gym in weeks. He acknowledges that I've gained weight, but he always says that I look terrific and reminds me that no matter what, we're a team. It's almost a relief to know that what I had previously thought would have been a dealbreaker in a relationship really holds such less importance to sincere men than I ever would have guessed.

Your husband loves you, Sabrina. You haven't failed your husband -- you've been a loving wife and mother. What I've come to learn is that the good men want a sense of family and partnership above all else. You can provide and have provided that for him -- I say "keep up the good work, my dear"! Be kinder to yourself than this.