You are lucky to be free of this jerk. Put all your feelings of the bf down on paper as a letter, be nasty, say whatever you want to say to this jerk. Put it in an envelope and give yourself a week to decide whether to mail it or not.

I am so sorry you are in grief right now for your father.

I'm sure a lot of your feelings right now are tied up in grief for your Dad. If I were you, I think your emotional well-being would be best spent on yourself and the grieving process....after all your Dad deserves your love and emotional energy. Hang a no-vacancy sign out to the jerk...he has no business in your thoughts and
in your life right now. A person who is grieving cannot add a lot of other junk in their life when attending to their sorrow. That's an overload and hitting your head against a brick wall. Hugs, bj