My sister and I just had this conversation. I truly believe there is a pay off for everyone and their motives regarding every aspect of everyday living. I mean you don't eat if you won't get some sort of pay off. I don't speak to people when I don't feel like speaking to them, doesn't matter that I don't know that they are bawling at the constant ringing on their phone to not get an answer to me. Everyone does what they want, when they want and how they want and if they do a good thing for someone else, it is not out of a pure thoughtless act of kindness, there is some pay off for them...everyone is selfish and self-serving. That is my take on life. It seems a little pessimistic and I am not generally that pessimistic, but on this topic this is the only thing that makes sense.