Hey sezzie! Long time no hear!! I refuse to see male docs (kinda difficult down here where we struggle to get any docs anyway- for a while we didn't even have a hospital psychologist and atm the waiting list is very long for the one that is here) so I haven't had to deal with this situation. It sounds kinda tricky tho but as DE and _sky said there does need to be some connection in order for you to get the best possible treatment. Maybe if, as you said, you only see him once in a while you don't need to do anything but if you start thinking about him and it gets a bit full on, then maybe you should reassess the situation. Sorry I have rambled )as usual!) and I can't offer you much advice, but tc