I struggled a lot with my silence when I began therapy. To be honest, I still struggle with the silence, but it doesn't bother me in the same way as it once did. Some people do therapy by talking for 50 minutes straight and don't let the T say much. Some have a 50-minute conversation with equal parts T and client. And some people, like me, struggle to find the words in most sessions.

The biggest work I've done with T is share my trauma history and come to be less ashamed of my memories and who I am and how I act today. Much of that work was accomplished with me saying a small bit, and then being accepted by T. That required the act of being together so much more than talking.

I still have days where I am so frustrated with myself, and T and I still try lots of techniques to help me share more. But it's just what I need, and accepting that has been a huge benefit to me. I don't know if that helps, Squiggle, but it's been my experience.