The more I do EMDR in therapy, the more I realize that it doesn't have to follow the protocol exactly. My T has me choose the event and the negative feeling about myself but then she ways wherever my mind goes is the way it's supposed to go. There's not right or wrong. You'll get to where you need to be. So, I'm more relaxed about EMDR now, and I feel better about it.

In other words, don't try to figure it out yet. That's what my T always tells me. Don't try to connect the dots. When you do more EMDR there will be plenty of time to figure it out. Just go where your mind takes you. I hope that helps you.