Thank you! I will check on the book... I understand what you are saying on the unresolved issues... My husband's sudden death at 43 in front of me and our children was tremendously traumatic. As much as I feel like I've done alot of 'grief work' I know I have alot of fear and unresolved anger. The man I recently married was an old friend...wonderful and supportive. I have started to fear that he will die suddenly as well... Wow...even as I write this my chest is beginning to hurt and ears to ring. Maybe I just haven't given enough credance to my own emotions in this. I'm pretty used to being controlled. Anyway, thank you much for your words. Rhonda