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Old Jan 29, 2012, 03:42 AM
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Originally Posted by rainbow8 View Post
I'm rarely critical of my T but something she said last Tuesday rubbed me the wrong way. At the end of the session, she said (she's asked me this a few times in the past) "but you don't want to leave your marriage, do you?" Then she added something like "you're young (don't know why she said that because I'm NOT), you could...." I don't know if she said find someone else, or what but that's what she meant.

Now, from the way I talk about my marriage, she knows I've always wished that my H could meet my needs better, and I mentioned that long ago I thought briefly about divorce, but I know I never would leave him. We've been married too many years.

I wonder if she was out-of-line for suggesting, it seems, that I get divorced. Confirming that I don't want to end my marriage is okay, but the way she sounded was like she was putting thoughts into my head about what SHE thinks I should do. I don't mind that she recommended yoga and meditation, but this seemed a bit much. What does anyone think? I already emailed her about it, and I'll bring it up at my next session.
Sometimes my T thinks my answers are too pat, that I don't think enough about how I feel. Then she will challenge me.

There are two ways of doing this (here come the bullet points!)
1. To suggest the opposite of what I've said.
2. To suggest beyond what I've said.

This looks like a type 2 challenge.
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