I think it comes down to, do you trust T? If you trust T, then I would think T is echoing back to me what they hear me saying "between the lines", what my unconscious is blurting out that I don't hear, but is more apparent to them. That might be why it feels like they are "putting" these thoughts in our heads, but it's more like they're just brushing away the dirt covering them, so we can see them. That it struck a nerve, that it riled you up - makes me think mayhaps the lady doth protest too much. Altho it could be like you're AFRAID you're gay, that's why you have this "thing" for your lady T's, so to suggest divorce "proves" it? Bunk - it doesn't "prove" anything. I like Perna's plan - don't be afraid of the thoughts, just follow them out, good or bad, see what shoe fits.