Oh, how very hard for you! My senile stepmother was hospitalized in the same wing my mother died of a brain tumor in, 45 years earlier, and I had to visit her. It was at a large Navy base complex and I kept having flashbacks to the time between when my mother died and my father remarried and just after that; my stepmother use to tell the story of the first time she took me to that hospital (I was 5) I proudly announced to an elevator full of people, "This is the hospital where my mommy died!" I had a heck of a time getting from my car though to the room to visit my stepmother; the flashbacks were so thick of being 3-6 years old. It did not help that I was in therapy for that reason; my stepmother was not able to "care" for me so who would now? I had merged the two mothers and here one was helpless and dying all over again.

Do you have any friends who could walk with you, escort you to your therapy sites (and then pick you up afterwards?). Having solid people in my "now" life talking/listening to me would help me I think.